My thought for the day

[lithera]

it is a very hard thing to accept that there are some people who you will never be enough for, no matter how much you care about them. Accepting where others can fit you into their lives and them into yours can be a hard and challenging process.

Comments

[dr4b]

I found some old journals today which indicate I have been trying to do that exact thing since early 1993 with someone, and if this year is any indication, still have not.

[lithera.livejournal.com]

It is a hard thing to do. I know there are people in my life I feel that way about and have for a long time. It never really stops feeling bittersweet. Not entirely.

[fireballof3.livejournal.com]

Redefining a relationship to where you're both confortable with it is hard to do, but it's easier all around once the call has been made.

Confusion about the nature of a relationship is no good for anyone.

[lithera.livejournal.com]

Sometimes it never entirely gets better but you're right, communication helps. I've been all up and down and crazy the past few days.

[fireballof3.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[ariadnequinn.livejournal.com]

I know exactly how you feel...I'm trying to learn how to deal with similar situations in my own life right now. I've always been very aware of the existence of such relationships in my life, but have spent all my time and energy trying to make myself better...make myself more...make myself good enough for those people...

But recently I've come to the conclusion that I am what I am, and if that's not "enough" for them, there's nothing I can do to change that. I must accept it and move on with my life...

[lithera.livejournal.com]

It is a hard thing to do. And I think part of it is not to think of it in terms of 'enough' and more in terms of puzzle pieces that just don't fit quite right. It helps some.

[ariadnequinn.livejournal.com]

That's an interesting way to put it...but still, deep down, I sometimes ask myself what's wrong with me...

Luckily, I have a bunch of really good friends who are ready and willing to help me with the task at hand, and I'm making progress...albeit in small, baby-sized steps. But progress nonetheless.

And I hope...

[lithera.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[ariadnequinn.livejournal.com]

Thanks...right back at ya! :-)

[samy.livejournal.com]

I've definitely been demolished by just this sensation over the past few months.

"Not good enough for a certain someone."

God, I want that line of thought out of my head.

[amit.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight*

Ew. I'm like totally familiar with that feeling. Almost biblically. It totally sucks.

[lithera.livejournal.com]

I'm thinking it is very much a human thing.

[amit.livejournal.com]

It is.

I think there's always someone that we will feel that way towards.

On the bright side? [Actually, maybe not, coz saying that it's the bright side makes it sound bitchy somehow...]

Someone out there might feel the same way about us.

[lithera.livejournal.com]

Ooooof.

That's heavy too.

*hugs*

[amit.livejournal.com]

Yeah.

All things of the heart and soul tend to be.

*cuddles* I've really missed you. :)

[lithera.livejournal.com]

I missed you too. I really did.

*hugs*

[alryssa.livejournal.com]

Don't really have anything profound to add, just hugs.